Feb-13-2007 / Other
Valentines day makes me think about all the relationships I've been in and what I learned from them. it also makes me think about how my love life is now and how it might be in the future. We all have ex's. Some of my ex's I've tried to stay friends with, if the relationship ended on good terms. Sometimes I ended it, other times he ended it but either way it wasn't an easy thing on either of us but we tried to remain friends. One even invited me to his wedding. I have some ex's that I have completely lost contact with. They moved or changed their number. Sometimes I wonder how they are doing and how
things worked out for them. There are still other ex's that I never ever want to see again because the relationship ended badly, his fault of course. Looking back I now know which guys loved me and which ones didn't. I know which ones respected me and which ones didn't. And I know now how I really felt about them. Of course this is all easy to do looking back. I also think about the relationships I'm in now. Not just the relationship with my guy but with my friends and co-workers. I start watching how they compare to those people in my past and try to figure out which ones I'm likely to still have in my life years from now and which ones will just be a memory. It makes me wonder which ones are true friends. It also makes me think about if I'm being a good friend to them or if I could be a little bit better. None of this is easy because it's so hard to predict how the relationship will progress or what little thing might ruin an otherwise good relationship. I try not to think too much about this because only time will tell. Now wondering about the future is a little bit more fun and hopeful. I think about what I really want in a relationship and I have already met my soulmate or if he is still out there somewhere waiting for me to walk into his life. I think about if my current relationship and if both of us are happy and if there is a future that we both want and are both willing to work towards. I wonder if he's happy with me and if I'm really happy with him. After all, I have thought I found the man of my dreams before and it turned out I didn't so how do I know the same thing isn't happening now. Again only time will tell so I can't worry about it, I can just do my best to make things
work because I do love him. And I know he loves me. I guess the things I learned from my relationships are: 1) If a relationships fails, learn something from it about yourself. Did you expect too much or did the other person do contribute too little?
2) Learn what relationships are worth working at and which ones are not. Don't waste your waiting for someone to change and don't change for them. Be yourself! 3) Know when it's over. Working at a relationship is something both people have to do but learn to recognize when it can't be fixed any more. 4) Move on. Don't waste your time trying to rekindle a bad relationship, it just postpones the problem. Find someone new who you can be happy with and who will be happy with you and excepts you as you are. 5) Don't rest until you have found your true soulmate, your true love, the love of your life. Don't settle for anything less, you're just wasting time.
I hope this blog has helped you the reader learn something. Maybe about relationships, maybe about yourself or maybe just a little bit more about me. In any event have a Happy Valentines Day.
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